Monday, 31 March 2014

Visiting Unis and Battling Shyness




I am curretly at the stage in my life where Universities have made me offers, and I am traipsing around the country visiting them all, trying to decide where I want to spend the next 3-4 years of my life. On these visit days I am always apprehensive, and my anxiety kicks into over drive.

On a recent visit to York I had been on campus soil for just two minutes and I knew I had to get out of their. I could feel the ebs of a panic attack coming on and only a vigurous walk would calm my shakey legs. I made it to the near by village, where I made my Mum hide in the local pub with me, playing dominos until I calmed down. On getting back to the campus, the talks began and parents had to leave their children and again I was greeted by sweaty palms, an over eratic heartbeat and body shaking. Eventually I had to leave before the end of the programmes, I had lasted three hours by myself, but I could feel the water works coming on, and knew it was time to curl up somewhere dark and away from other people.

But how can I battle this shyness? Or sheer panic to be more precise. I want to go away for three years, and live by myself and experience all the new and wonderful experiences that are part of growing up and moving away. But I can't even get past the visit day. I am curently looking for a way of battling my anxiety, and a way to cope with new people and my crippling shyness. Cause I know I can't go three years with no friends.  And  I also can't keep running away when I feel overwhelmed, but I just don't know how.

Are you desperately shy or suffer from anxiety? And if so I would be extremely grateful of any tips you have on how to overcome it? 
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  1. I find it calming to hold onto something that holds great significance and reminds me of a place I am comfortable, if you go in with the mindset that you aren't going to like it and you are going to suffer an anxiety attack, you already increase your chances.

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    Chloe // throughchloeslens.wordpress.com x

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    1. Thank you for the advice Chloe, haha yeh, easier said then done though, I am a humungous worrier H xx

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  2. Great post...
    Lovely greets Nessa

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  3. im applying to uni this year too and i know how you feel being scared, but im sure it will pass! the first few months will be really hard but just imagine the independence and experiences you will gain and im sure you will get more confident with time. if you;re really struggling to come to terms with everything maybe you should talk to someone? hope this helps xx
    The Frill Seeker

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    1. Thank you Leah, yeh I do suffer from panic attack and I going to the doctors for another review, hopefully it'll be ok. I wish you all the luck with Uni applications, hopefully your not feeling too stressed! H xx

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  4. i suffer from mild anxiety so i know how horrible the feeling can be! Focusing on your breathing helps sometimes, breathing in through your nose for 4 and then out through your nose again for 4. Im in my first year of uni now and although my anxiety thankfully isn't severe it does flare up from time to time. I have the mindset that I'm not going to let something horrible stop me from doing the things I want to do, so when I'm feeling anxious i'll try to calm down with even something as simple as a cup of tea or listening to a song I like. If it doesn't get any better there's always CBT which i've heard can work wonders! well done for going to the visit days anyway lovely, hope you can feel better soon! xxx
    s x

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    1. Thank you, you are too kind. Yeh I had CBT as treatment for depression and it really does work wonders, but they didn't address my anxiety very well. I will definitely try all these tips, I need your kind of mindset, determination is pretty powerful stuff. I hope you continue to do well at Uni H xx

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  5. I absolutely know how you feel. I was always SUPER shy and used to have problems with panic attacks. I'm afraid I might not have any concrete answers for you. I think some of my jobs really helped me get over my some of my shyness. Sometimes it's easier to interact with people when you have a job to do, it also gives you something in common to talk about with co-workers.
    I still am hit with little baby panic attacks sometimes and I always take a minute to just pray and focus on my breathing and then tell myself to just dive in. Once I'm in the situation I usually find that it's not anywhere as bad as how I was making it out to be.
    Just keep reminding yourself that you can do it! Self confidence can really go a long way I've found:)

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    1. Thank you. I definitely agree that once you are doing the thing that was panicking you it is a lot better. I just struggle to get there H xx

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